February 2012
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September 2011
2 posts
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Queen Titania's Guide To: Sensory Deprivation Play
Hello everyone let me introduce myself: I am Queen Titania, a gender fluid dominatrix. I am coming to you today to talk about one of my favorite activities. Sensory deprivation is the most unadulterated fun I can have in a session, and I hope I can give everyone a few ideas on how to have fun with it and then help put a dehumanization twist on it!
Sensory deprivation presents an extremely...
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July 2011
1 post
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Queering Forced Feminization (Trigger Wanring for...
Before we go any further let’s define forced feminization. Forced feminization is a type of play in which the dominant “forces” the submissive to act/dress/appear in a traditionally “feminine” manner. This can include wearing “female” clothing, the application of makeup, the use of a “feminine” name, the removal/concealment of things...
May 2011
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Anonymous asked: My girlfriend and I have been doing some roleplaying, and a favorite is prison guard/prisoner or something of the like. We were wondering if you guys could help us compile a list of punishments/penance to do to the prisoner/for the prisoner to do. Thank you. With or without toys, both are acceptable, and we're willing to try anything. ;)
March 2011
2 posts
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Menage Au Trois: Some Roleplay Ideas For Three
Now, this isn’t a poly focused blog, it’s poly friendly, but it’s not generally a blog about poly. I’m not poly (my partner and I are sexually open, but we don’t have other relationships) and so don’t feel qualified to write about it generally, however having had a reasonable amount of experience with menage au trois (or more) I decided to come up with a list of...
uncollaredandunleashed-deactiva asked: I am a pansexual female with a male Master. He is very encouraging about my interest in women, and we are both hoping to find a woman that would be willing to play with us.Unfortunately, we have no idea how to meet people, as there isn't really a bdsm community in our area. Do you have any advice on how to meet women that would be into kink and playing with a couple?
February 2011
5 posts
Anonymous asked: My partner is studying abroad at the moment and I was thinking of surprising them with a new kink when they returned. They always wanted to try heat play (I'm not sure what the correct name of that is) like with hot wax, a really warming gel (close to burning sensation), etc. I know very little about this, and would like to learn more. Do you have any suggestions or sources I could check out?...
Anonymous asked: http://www.chaseunion.com/cat2/inflate.htm
everything sterile you'd ever need to inflate anything :)
everything sterile you'd ever need to inflate anything :)
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WatchSaline drip breast expansion. It’s a hard thing to learn to do, but it looks tons of fun. It can be used for gender play, dollification play, general pain play, or just the fun of filling someone’s chest area with water.
Win. I think I’ll get my friend who’s an RN to teach me about this one.
Anonymous asked: Can you change the font? It's so hard to read :(
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January 2011
5 posts
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On Risk and The Previous Post
The last post here got a big response, a lot of people were upset over me “telling them how to have sex” and someone pointed out “there’s also no safe way to go sky diving” and someone else said “they’re really sick of female dominants being demonized” (I’m not really sure what the last one had to do with anything considering in no way did I...
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The QK Guide To: Breath Control Play
So, strangulation, suffocation, all of this stuff is breath control play. All of this stuff is INCREDIBLY dangerous, and not just for the reasons you think. Most of the deaths caused by erotic breath control situations are not caused by strangulation/suffocation itself, but of a massive heart attack about 15 to 20 minutes later, sometimes this can be the result of less than a minute of...
keepshitreal asked: greetings! it's kind of me again. i'm a kinky queer. to be specific in the least vague way i can, i'm a 20yr old baby of a switch. sometime early in november, i had the local kink community basically fall into i'm lap in another one of the improbably-convenient and lucky cosmic coincidences that seem to occur so often in my life. i've discovered since this bizarre...
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Violet Wands For Less
Violet Wands for skin care are a lot cheaper than ones intended for BDSM, just look up “High Frequency skin care” and you’ll find a bunch around $100-$200 instead of the $300-800 one would pay for one intended for kink. It’s the same damn thing. Although not as pretty as the kink based sets, this is quite a savings.
High Frequency Unit
Another
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The QK Guide To: Electrical Play
Now, electricity is dangerous, it can cause burns, death, and lots of other nasty things, but when used properly with the right tools electricity can be sizzling hot. Now there are plenty of different toys for electrical play, and I’m going to tell you all about them.
The Toys:
Violet Wands: Originally a medical device these are a versatile toy based in static electricity that employs...
December 2010
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Anonymous asked: advice for a sexually naive girl that is going on a date with a incredibly sexy girl who really want her?? I don't want to disappoint but I also don't want to do anything I may regret. HELP please?
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The QK Guide To: Long Distance Fun
So, you’re travelling away from your partner, or maybe you’re in a long distance relationship, so what can you two do keep things hot while you’re separated.
There are internet enabled sex toys that allow a partner to control the other partner’s toy.
Have your partner take naughty photos in specific attire/poses/whatever and send them to you.
Have them masturbate on...
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QK Recommended Guide Books
So, because I can’t cover everything, since lord knows I’m not an expert on all practices within, I wanted to give some suggestions on books on BDSM and sex that I really love.
BDSM/Fetish Books:
Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon
Fetish Sex by Violet Blue
Fantasy Made Flesh By Janet W. Hardy
Wild Side Sex by Midori
Two Knotty Boys Show You The...
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The QK Rules For Being A Good Kinkster
So, recently I’ve been hearing a lot of debate on SSC/RACK and what defines “safe” and how to deal with people in the scene who’s doing things that are unsafe. Here are my rules for being a good kinkster.
A good kinkster knows how to use their tools and minimizes risk as much as they can while still doing whatever activity it is they want. E.G. They get someone to teach...
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Penis Enlargement Spam
I get a lot of Penis Enlargement Spam, at first I thought this was silly considering that I’ve got two X chromosomes, but then I realized that it makes perfect sense, after all, if I don’t have a penis at all, it really must need enlarging
Anonymous asked: Do you know of any other tumblrs kink-inclined?
Queer or otherwise?
Queer or otherwise?
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The QK Guide To: Kinky Holidays
Now, I’m a third generation Atheist, but damnit I do love Christmas, and all those other awesome solstice based holidays. I personally celebrate Christmas (or Santa day) as my family has done for genorations, because we think that Santa is the personification of all the best parts of human nature, a distillation of goodness if you will, and we like taking trees indoors and decorating them....
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The QK Guide To: Finding A Partner
So, you want to find a play partner, fuck buddy, a sweetheart, or a potential permanent mate, and you need them to be kinky? Cool, you’ve just made it a whole lot harder to find a suitable date, but never fear the QK Guide to Getting A Date is here.
First, figure out what you want. Do you want kink all of time? Some of the time? Just now and then? Exactly what are your kinks? Are you...
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Q: What strap-on's, that don't resemble an actual...
Well, I don’t know what size you’re looking for, or if you like texture, or a fair number of other factors, so I’ll suggest a variety. All of the sex shops I recommend ship internationally, however I can link you to a UK one as well.
Here’s what I recommend on EF (including a few of my favorite harnesses and strapless strap ons):
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The Importance Of Service in Long Term D/s...
A lot of you may be moaning at the mention of service, it’s almost every bottom’s least favorite form of play, and you know what, I’m a lifestyle submissive myself, and I’m not exactly in love with it, but in a long term kinky relationship with a defined top and bottom (or defined dom/me and sub) service is damned important. Topping isn’t easy, as a pro-domme I know...
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The QK Guide To: Travel For Kinksters
So, I promised you all a second segment on travel, so here goes. Here are some travel tips for kinky queers.
Packing:
As much as possible when it comes to air travel pack equipment that can be mistaken for other things. For example a ping pong paddle, and cuffs that could be mistaken for a stylish bracelet.
When flying never pack recognizable or embarrassing kink equipment in your carry on to...
November 2010
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Fun Idea Of The Day: Fishing
So, in this idea you handcuff the submissive to the bed, and thread a cloth ribbon through the key and dangle it over the submissive’s mouth, making them “jump” to get at it, you can raise and lower the key to tease them, but be careful of their teeth with the metal key, and make sure that when you do finally let them bite down on it, they grab the ribbon not the key itself...
Anonymous asked: Are there any other kinky tumblr pages out there like you folks, with information and such? Most of the kink tumblrs I've been able to find are just, y'know, porn.
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The QK Guide To: Edgy Roleplay
So, you’re probably kinky, as people who read this tumblr generally are (people who read this tumblr also tend to be significantly more fabulous than average, but that’s not the point) but let’s say your particular roleplays are a little less socially acceptable than most. In fact, let’s say you like roleplaying scenarios that are down right scary, or based upon events...
Anonymous asked: I stumbled upon this blog through following your other blog. I recently went to my first fetish ball and was exposed to the world of kink. It was one of the best nights I have had in a long time. While there I met a dominatrix and I just got her contact information. Being very new to this I have no idea where to begin in contacting her. Any suggestions? And thank you for this blog. It really had...
October 2010
12 posts
Anonymous asked: I don't mean to belabor the point, but beyond the link scandal, there were also the disputes over payment, banning, etc. with bloggers like Always Aroused Girl, Essin' Em, That Toy Chick, and Hey Epiphora. I only mention it because your post seemed to focus solely on their linking policy.
But whatever your final feelings about EF, let me take a moment to thank you for...
But whatever your final feelings about EF, let me take a moment to thank you for...
Anonymous asked: You promote and link a lot to Eden Fantasys, even though there have been numerous, repeated claims and/or evidence to their unethical practices and mistreatment of employees.
I'm not being accusatory- there are plenty of good folks who still work with EF or are part of their affiliate program. I guess I'm just curious as to whether you are aware of the scandals and...
I'm not being accusatory- there are plenty of good folks who still work with EF or are part of their affiliate program. I guess I'm just curious as to whether you are aware of the scandals and...
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The QK Guide To: Wax Play
All you little pyros out there like fire, right? Yeah, but I’m assuming your partner prooobably doesn’t want to be burned at the stake, no matter how hot it would be (I apologize for that pun).
So, what’s a fire loving sadist to do? The obvious answer, wax play. Wax play is the practice of dripping hot/warm candle wax over a submissive’s body. It produces intense...
trekwho asked: Dominant blowjob: How does one go about doing that?
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The QK Guide To: Kinky Vacations, Hotels, and...
Alright so you and your partner want a romantic getaway, just like any other couple… except you’re not a het couple… and your idea of romantic involves whips , chains and thigh high boots (or similar) so where do you go? Well here I have complied a list of ideas for getaways for kinksters , including an extensive list of Bondage and Breakfasts around the world , and...
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Fun Idea Of The Day: Gender Blender
This is a fun idea for female bodied couples, or couples featuring a female bodied person and a male bodied person (provided the male bodied person is comfortable with their genitalia).
If you’re both female bodied, both of you strap it on, make sure your bottom is wearing a two strap style harness (as opposed to a jock/thong style) for genital access, proceed to fuck the bottom in...
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Steampunk Steam
So, I’ve decided to do a post on all the steampunk-alcious toys I’ve been seeing lately. They’re luscious looking and just the thing for those of us who love a little victoriana with our naughtiness. Also awesome for all those naughty mad scientist scenes.
Luscious Posture Posture Collar by Antiseptic Fashions
Lusciously Steampunk Wrist Restraints by Backstreet Leather
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thepeacockangel asked: So, I just goth this on my main blog, and I thought you, dear readers of Queer Kink might want to read the answer:
This might be kind of different from the usual stuff you get, it's kind of an advice question. I think I might not be able to have orgasms during penetration...you're so aware of your body and in control of your sexuality. I really respect that, Do you have any tips?...
This might be kind of different from the usual stuff you get, it's kind of an advice question. I think I might not be able to have orgasms during penetration...you're so aware of your body and in control of your sexuality. I really respect that, Do you have any tips?...
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The Giant Queer Kink Naughty Shopping Guide
Many of these listings are manufacturers, and you will have to google their products to find a store, but I do have some recommendations in my “stores” section
Vibrators, Dildos, Butt Plugs, Etc:
JimmyJane: Purveyors of fine vibrators. Nearly all rechargeable, and superemely elegantly designed. Also creators of elegant massage candles and stones. Very luxurious.
LELO: Makers of...
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The QK Guide To: Titles for Doms (or what do you...
So, my partner and I do not use titles when we play together, but as pro-dommes we do both use titles professionally, and if you’re the sort of person who enjoys them, well then you should go straight ahead and use them. If you want to be called “El Super King” well then you go right ahead and insist on being called El Super King. So I’m creating this quick guide to...
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The QK Guide To: Sex Toy Materials
So, sex toys are made out of a wide variety of things, and some materials are vastly superior to others. I’m sure you could find this information yourself with a little research, but I figured it would be a good resource for everyone to have. As well since most sex toy companies create the products under the classification of novelties in the USA, the materials are not as well regulated as...
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A Good Guide To BDSM for Newbies →
inpraiseofshame:
justjasper:
queerkink:
xero mag’s BDSM for nice guys… works great for nice girls too.
This is a great article. A good one also for anyone who thinks “how can sane/nice people be interested in hurting each other and getting off on it?!”
Doesn’t this kind of assume that in hetero relationships, the man will take the dominant role when engaged in BDSM? I suppose it was...
September 2010
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A Good Guide To BDSM for Newbies →
xero mag’s BDSM for nice guys… works great for nice girls too.
Anonymous asked: How do you think BDSM and feminism go together?
Do you think BDSM is based in a patriarchy?
My curiosity has been piqued by a recent discussion with some friends.
What is your take on it?
Do you think BDSM is based in a patriarchy?
My curiosity has been piqued by a recent discussion with some friends.
What is your take on it?
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Dungeon Steel →
Purveyors of fine cages, I love their large birdcage styled cage. One day, when I finally have my own dungeon I will have one of my very own.