Queer Kink

A practical and philosophical guide to real life BDSM for LGBTQs.
~ Sunday, May 27 ~
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jakigriot asked: Hey! I just found your blog and I love it! Thanks for being awesome. I want to reblog a few things and I wanted to see if I could give a shout-out to pervertsofcolor here on tumblr as well. Anyway, keep up the good kink!

Totally, I was not aware it existed and on name alone is one of my new favorite things.  Carry on being badass.


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~ Thursday, May 24 ~
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ohpierre asked: The forced-feminization article really articulated exactly what I enjoy putting myself and consenting-others into my feminization play. Thank you so much. I have to deal with the stereotype that I somehow use femininity as a 'bad, vile, punishment' tool and that I'm 'enslaved to the misoginistic ideal' whenever I mention feminization/sissification, but honestly its not really that, not ever at all.

I KNOW! 


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~ Wednesday, May 9 ~
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~ Tuesday, April 3 ~
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~ Sunday, March 25 ~
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Anonymous asked: thank you! I'd already spoken with them about the sanitation thing, but the back-up combination lock thing is a great idea that I wouldn't have been able to think of on my own. I'm not sure who Queen Titania is (does she write for this blog, or is there somewhere else I can contact her....?) thanks again, much appreciated!

She’s my business partner, um she writes for Queerkink.


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Anonymous asked: so, my play partner has brought up the idea of getting me a chastity belt that I would wear even away from them (potentially with an internal vibe that they could control remotely? I didn't think that this was possible from certain distances, but apparently it is?) and while I'm kind of interested, I have a lot of questions about the feasibility and details about this sort of thing. can you point me towards any informational resources on this? thank you so much!

Um there are USB ones… that connect to the internet, but you can’t wear those long term (they ‘re not waterproof).  I would say, the main issues are

  1. Fit.  For safety reasons you’re going to want a really good one.  Queen Titania knows more about them than I do and can advise you on which one to get based on the size and shape of your junk.
  2. Sanitation.  You want something you can wear and keep clean, this is harder for people with vaginas as cock chastity devices are fairly easy (they’re a cage) whereas a good chastity belt that won’t chafe/rust/cause issues when you ahem excrete.
  3. In case of emergencies you need to be able to get the belt off (they can shift/dig in/etc) so I recommend having a separate set of keys in a box with a combination lock so your partner can let you get to it if needed.

~ Sunday, February 26 ~
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~ Wednesday, February 1 ~
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hormonaltransrex:

BECAUSE THERE ARE SO FEW RESOURCES LIKE THIS FOR POST-OP SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!
ALSO, IF YOU HAVE LONG CLAWS LIKE ME, BE VERY CAREFUL DOWN THERE! IT’S NOT A NICE PLACE TO SCRATCH YOURSELF (UNLESS YOU’RE INTO THAT KIND OF THING).
ALSO NOTE THAT THIS IS JUST ONE WAY OF DOING THINGS, OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPERIENCES WILL VARY, BUT THIS MAY BE A GOOD PLACE TO START. JUST EXPERIMENT, GIVE IT TIME AND DON’T BE AFRAID YOU MIGHT BREAK IT - THEY ARE PRETTY DURABLE ONCE FULLY HEALED!

hormonaltransrex:

BECAUSE THERE ARE SO FEW RESOURCES LIKE THIS FOR POST-OP SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!

ALSO, IF YOU HAVE LONG CLAWS LIKE ME, BE VERY CAREFUL DOWN THERE! IT’S NOT A NICE PLACE TO SCRATCH YOURSELF (UNLESS YOU’RE INTO THAT KIND OF THING).

ALSO NOTE THAT THIS IS JUST ONE WAY OF DOING THINGS, OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPERIENCES WILL VARY, BUT THIS MAY BE A GOOD PLACE TO START. JUST EXPERIMENT, GIVE IT TIME AND DON’T BE AFRAID YOU MIGHT BREAK IT - THEY ARE PRETTY DURABLE ONCE FULLY HEALED!


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~ Wednesday, September 21 ~
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Queen Titania’s Guide To: Sensory Deprivation Play

Hello everyone let me introduce myself: I am Queen Titania, a gender fluid dominatrix. I am coming to you today to talk about one of my favorite activities. Sensory deprivation is the most unadulterated fun I can have in a session, and I hope I can give everyone a few ideas on how to have fun with it and then help put a dehumanization twist on it!

Sensory deprivation presents an extremely unique opportunity: the chance to instill fear in a bottom, slave or submissive without putting them in any actual danger. Successful sensory deprivation play is defined by theatrics and mental manipulation rather than physical pain or predicaments. In this one sided psychological warfare there is also an added element that few take advantage of, the ability to indulge in intense dehumanization scenes. Let us first introduce the basics of sensory deprivation before we indulge in those possibilities.

As one might guess, sensory deprivation is at its core the handicapping of one or more of the bottom’s senses. It can begin with something as simple as a blindfold and proceed down a path of headphones, gags, mitts and full facial hoods. Taken to its extreme, sensory deprivation can revoke the ability to see, speak and hear while altering the sense of touch as well as limiting or completely removing mobility. I will admit I have never attempted to remove or alter a submissive’s sense of taste or smell. The former is simply silly while the latter is often impractical.
Now you have someone helpless and disoriented before you… what to do now? Re-orient them! There are two ways that seem most popular: physical sensation play and through psychological intimidation and confusion. The first temptation is usually sensation play. It is great fun to tease and confuse your partner with toys they have never experienced before or may be unable to recognize by touch alone. Objects such as vampire gloves, massage gloves and vibrators, knives, ice cubes and a variety of interesting textures can be used to tease without even making genital contact. That is not saying you should not make genital contact, however it is best built up to! A gradual progression of interesting sensations with brief strokes closer and closer to the erogenous zones builds up to a very intense reaction when you finally begin applying direct stimulation.
It is in the mystery of the unseen scratchers or horrific buzzing sound of vibrating toys that creates the specific opportunity for intense mind fucks, gender play or at the furthest extreme: dehumanization. In sensory deprivation play the perception of events is as important as the event itself. The sensations are heightened due to fear, whether it is a scratch or a noise. In this case, you are designing a scene to strip a person of their humanity.
There are many ways to achieve this, but let us discuss a “basic” scenario I have used in the past. The first step is obvious, a rather extreme form of sensory deprivation. A proper hood and mitts are your friends here. A hood with no eye holes and a zipper closure on the mouth is vital for making a person feel helpless, and the mitts make it so they well… cannot feel! From here you will want to take their gender out of the equation. There are two ways to do this, you might place a chastity belt on them… or you might simply ignore it. I find option two to work better. Option one constantly reminds them they still have a penis or a vagina because it is covered in plastic or cold metal. They might feel pain from it. Instead, we want them to feel nothing at all and to feel like we are completely unaware it exists.

Terminology also becomes important as words like “it” and “thing” convey a sense of genderless objectification that can be very powerful, especially with the mindset this play creates. It can be taken in a different direction with the use of animal names; doggy, kitty, Fido, pig, ostrich, panda, etc. Knowing your partner is important here. If they have a major fetish for objectification, robot play, drone play or feeling like a “thing” you may want to go towards animal names, and vice versa. Why? Well, if turn them on and make them feel more like themselves that is hardly dehumanizing! However, worrying about such a minor detail is a bit silly unless you are completely serious about delivering the most dehumanizing mind fuck possible. Concern yourself more with choice insults and humiliating taunts to follow up your choice of terminology and remind the subject they are below you. Of course, you could also use silence. Whether or not you have chosen to take away the submissive’s hearing silence is powerful. A person is used to being talked to. They get uncomfortable when they feel they are being ignored.

Movement is another key decision in the process of dehumanization. Strict, tight bondage frustrates the subject; they cannot move and thus cannot participate in the process. By in effect taking away their agency you take away a major part of their humanity. A person who cannot see, cannot speak, cannot move and can barely feel (with their hands, they still have their emotions which you can still stomp on) is barely a person anymore, right?
There is however a slight modification that can be quite fun. Instead of immobilization, try restricting mobility. Isn’t it more fun to see them struggle or writhe in agony during a beating? So feel free to play with it! Instead of immobilizing them, make it possible for them to move a little bit. A recent session I did provided a wonderful example of why this works. The sub was covered in latex clothing for the first time, changing the way his skin felt. He had latex gloves on, and a hood that covered his eyes. From there he was placed face down on the ground, and his hands and legs were bound behind him using duct tape. He was then told to struggle and wriggle like a worm to move around. The result was quite the spectacle, a man who could barely move an inch at a time, who could not roll over and could not escape the predicament. After half an hour of blindly struggling I was left with a mentally and physically exhausted “thing.”
By giving a person a chance to fail at simple tasks you break them down. It is physically and mentally exhausting to fight back against bondage in this predicament. After taking away their senses, their name, their gender and their mobility you will be left with a broken mess on the ground ready for your manipulation. This has not been an exhaustive resource, but I think it will give you some new ideas to play with.
- By the Lovely Titania

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