A practical and philosophical guide to real life BDSM for LGBTQs.
felixitous-inactive said: Hi there! Do you happen to know of anywhere one could find plus-size fetish wear? My partner and I only recently started experimenting with BDSM, and she's been amazing, and I know she'd like to see me in something a little sexier than a bra and underwear and I'd LOVE to make that happen, but I wear a 40DDD and am a size 16, so that "size medium/large" shit won't exact cut it (wow that was a run-on). Any help is appreciated. Thanks!
I’d need to know more specifically what you’re looking for (latex, leather, corsets?) before I could really tell you. What I can tell you though is most of the places that do the really good stuff do custom pieces (Vengeance designs does gorgeous Latex at reasonable prices, as does Dawnamatrix, Stormy Leather corsets are nice. I believe Coquette does some plus sized stuff but I can’t be 100% on that) I wish I knew better where to dig up some off the rack stuff because the custom jobs tend to be pricey (although WAY sexier looking in my opinion)
Cone of shame
idea of the idea
Acquire an “Elizabethian Collar” (A term for the cones you put on pets after surgery, in a size appropriate to your sub, makes them wear it when they’ve been naughty.
Anonymous said: i like to know if you like to have a sissy male maid and sex slave to be tie up and gag and blindfold to and rent me out to
I don’t have sex slaves, and I am not a pimp.
If your sub (like me) tends to hoard clothes, or merely refuses to get rid of clothes as needed, here’s an idea. I had my dom/me help me sort out my wardrobe, getting rid of pieces they don’t like, it made it sexy so I didn’t mind collecting pieces to donate to charity at all. Yay for more space.
idea of the day
For corset training and domestic service, corset your sub, tell them that the corset can come off after the chores are done, they can devote time to other things, but the corset stays on until they’re done.
For a meaner version, the corset can be tightened a bit for every hour the chores aren’t done
xtild said: I wanted to add a comment to your forced fem discussion. As a trans women, I used to engage in some of this play before i really came out to myself as trans. For me it was a safe way to explore the things i actually desired without all of the internalized misogyny and transphobia in the way. It was safe because I didnt want to do it. Somebody else was "making me." You already said this in your post, but i thought I would lend my voice of support and as evidence.
THank you, I’ve heard this time and again. So to anyone who thinks that forced feminization is bad, fuck y’all