Queer Kink

Anonymous asked: How do you think BDSM and feminism go together?
Do you think BDSM is based in a patriarchy?
My curiosity has been piqued by a recent discussion with some friends.
What is your take on it?

1.  I think that feminism and BDSM work just fine together.  After all, feminism is about giving people of all genders the choice to pursue what they want in life.  If what I want it to be spanked until I can’t sit down for a week, then I should have every right to find someone willing to spank me until I can’t sit down for a week.  Limiting women’s choices, whether denying them the submissive or dominant role in life, is limiting and opposed to the goals of feminism.

2.  No, I do not think BDSM is based on the patriarchy.  It comes from a desire for dominance, or a desire to be dominated.  I don’t think it can be said to stem from the patriarchy considering there are such a plethora of dynamics, as well as male dom/female sub, there’s female dom/male sub, female dom/female sub, and male dom/male sub, as well as endless other potential dynamics. I don’t know how it could be based on the patriarchy when it’s so clearly a varied spectrum of dynamics.