Queer Kink

The QK Guide To: Titles for Doms (or what do you call a non-gender-bianary dominant?)

So, my partner and I do not use titles when we play together, but as pro-dommes we do both use titles professionally, and if you’re the sort of person who enjoys them, well then you should go straight ahead and use them.  If you want to be called “El Super King” well then you go right ahead and insist on being called El Super King.  So I’m creating this quick guide to titles for people who think they might want one but want to have a look at some ideas/options.  This list is organized first by typical gender association, but you should go with what feels right.  If you identify as male and want to be called Mistress, well then you rock on with your bad self, identify as female and want to be Sir, you rock on too, identify as genderqueer and want to be called Princess Sparkletits… you should definitely rock on… also you should message me because we should be best friends, and so on.  Don’t feel limited by the typical gender association of the terms.

I also include some word origins, in case you were curious.

Feminine:

• Mistress: from Old English mægester, meaning “one who has authority and control”.  
• Lady: from Old English hlæfdige, meaning “loaf-maid” (maker of bread), meaning mistress of the house, wife of a lord.
• Goddess: from god with a feminine suffix “ess” God is from Proto-Indoeuropean Ghu-to meaning poured from Gheu “To pour, to pour a libation”
• Dame: from Latin Domina meaning “lady of the house”.
• Madame: from Latin Mea Domina, which literally means, my lady
• Princess: feminine form of prince, from Latin Principis meaning “first, chief, prince”, from Primus meaning “first”.
• Empress: feminine form of Emporer, from the Latin imperare (past participal) “to command”
• Countess: feminine form of count, or wife of an earl.  From the Latin comitem meaning “companion”
• Duchess: feminine form of Duke, from Latin dux meaning leader or commander, from Proto-Indo-European deuk meaning “to lead”

Masculine:

• Master: from Old English mægester, meaning “one who has authority and control”.  
• Lord: from Old English hlafweard, meaning “guarder of loaves”.
• God: from Proto-Indoeuropean Ghu-to meaning poured from Gheu “To pour, to pour a libation”
• King: from Old English Cynn meaning “family”.
• Sir: from Sire, a title for a knight which is from latin Senior meaning “older/elder”.
• Prince: from Latin Principis meaning first, chief, prince, from Latin Primus meaning “first”.
• Duke: from Latin dux meaning leader or commander, from Proto-Indo-European deuk meaning “to lead”
• Monsieur: from French Sieur meaning lord.
• Emporer: from the Latin imperare (past participal) “to command”

Other:

• Captain: from Latin caput meaning “head”.
• Professor: from Latin professor meaning “one who professes to be an expert in some art or science, teacher of the highest rank”.  Generally better for teacher/student play.
• Your Highness: figure it out yourself
• My Liege: liege is a form of address used by surfs to denote the land owner.
• Doctor: from Latin Doctor meaning “teacher”
• -san: General Japanese honorific.  Gender neutral.  Somewhat like Mr. or Ms.
• -sama: Japanese honorific, very honorable, archaic, equivalent of Mistress or Master.
• Your Majesty: figure it out yourself
• Your Worship: figure it out yourself
• Magister: Latin, one who has authority or control
• Colonel: from Latin columna meaning “pillar”