The QK Guide To: Edgy Roleplay
So, you’re probably kinky, as people who read this tumblr generally are (people who read this tumblr also tend to be significantly more fabulous than average, but that’s not the point) but let’s say your particular roleplays are a little less socially acceptable than most. In fact, let’s say you like roleplaying scenarios that are down right scary, or based upon events that in real life are horrific and/or tragic. Well, you know what, I have a few of those kinks myself. The upsetting ones. The downright ugly ones. Obviously these should only be indulged with roleplay and fantasy. Those of you who’ve experienced trauma may wish to avoid reading this post as it contains potentially triggering material.
So, what precisely are we talking about here? Well there are a whole lot of scenarios based in fairly edgy territory.
Here’s a list of but a few:
Nazi/Concentration Camp Play: This is a very common and very delicate one. It’s easy to offend people, and not something I’d do in public spaces or bring up in public, it’s such a sensitive subject, and such a tragic part of history that you really do have to be circumspect about this if you ask me.
Other Racially Sensitive Roleplay: As a professional dominatrix, I get plenty of clients with interesting wishes in this respect, I have one guy who wants to be called the N-word. These are obviously again a sensitive topic, and one to be approached with caution. Do make sure to ask a partner gently and without pushing or prodding, none of these are kinks you can in good faith demand from a partner.
Rape Play: Okay, all of these are sensitive topics, I don’t know why I keep bringing that up. If your partner has experienced rape or sexual assault please take care when asking about this, and make sure you know whether they’ve experienced rape or sexual assault before you ask. Personally, I’ve been a victim of sexual assault and I find rape play cathartic, but plenty of others find it triggering or deeply distressing, do not push the issue.
Homophobia Play: A particularly difficult to navigate one considering we’re all queer here. It can be either very cathartic, or very unsettling depending on how it’s done. As with all of these tread carefully.
Tips On How To Do Edgy Roleplay:
- Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate: Do not just jump into a sensitive scene, talk about it, make sure all parties involved know about any past traumas that may effect any participant. Only play with people you trust and who trust you. These scenes can bring up tricky emotions and must be watched.
- Have a safe word: This should be a no brainer, but really you have to have a safe word, and listen to it, in case something goes bad.
- Do do aftercare: These are often emotionally intense scenes and so after you play, dom/me and sub both probably need cuddles, carbs, and kisses. Talk about the scene afterwards, process, and make sure everyone’s really really okay.
- Don’t do this in public: Out of politeness these are not scenes to conduct in public play spaces, these all have the potential to bring up bad things for many people, so be good ethical kinksters and don’t do this where you might trigger people.
- Don’t push it: If your partner’s not comfortable, your partner’s not comfortable, these are really not issues to push due to the sensitivity of these topics.
