Queer Kink

The Importance Of Service in Long Term D/s Relationships

A lot of you may be moaning at the mention of service, it’s almost every bottom’s least favorite form of play, and you know what, I’m a lifestyle submissive myself, and I’m not exactly in love with it, but in a long term kinky relationship with a defined top and bottom (or defined dom/me and sub) service is damned important.  Topping isn’t easy, as a pro-domme I know that as well.  It takes a lot of effort to create a good scene, and you have to focus constantly to make sure you don’t do harm, it’s… a lot of work, you have to think, to be creative, hyper-aware, if you lose control you could really really hurt someone.  

Bottoming… is relaxing, losing control makes tension melt away, or well it does if you’re a bottom/sub.  A domme, well they enjoy being in control, they enjoy it, but it’s not relaxing, and it takes work.  So, whether or not you get off on serving if you’re a sub, and you’re in a committed relationship with you’re dominant, especially if you live together, if you want more of those awesome scenes, if you want to keep the spark alive you will do the damn dishes, and make the bed, and whatever else you can to make their life a little easier so they can relax, and dominate the hell out of you in the bedroom.