Anonymous asked: advice for a sexually naive girl that is going on a date with a incredibly sexy girl who really want her?? I don't want to disappoint but I also don't want to do anything I may regret. HELP please?
First of all, I’m not sure if I fully understand your question (Do you really want the experienced girl, or does she really want you? Hopefully it’s both)
Okay then, well if you’re relatively inexperienced, talk to her, get to know her, get comfortable. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, and if she’d b willing to push you past your limits on the first date, she’s not a good person and you deserve better.
If she asks you to move faster than you’re comfortable with, discuss the situation clearly, and discuss your comfort zone and level of experience. It’s also important to figure out what you’re looking for from her, are you interested in with her. Are you looking for a relationship? Just sex? Just messing around? As well figure out what you’d be uncomfortable with with her. Will you be sadder if you have sex with her and don’t end up in a relationship than if you don’t have sex with her and don’t end up in a relationship? Then don’t have sex with her until you’re sure about wanting to date her. Will you be sadder if you mess around with her and don’t end up in a relationship? Then don’t mess around until you’re sure of the relationship. Similarly, if you’ll feel worse if you get emotionally involved and find you’re sexually incompatible, then don’t get into a relationship until you’re sure you’re sexually compatible. It all depends on your personal comfort zone, personally I’m perfectly happy to have sex with someone without it leading to a relationship, but it’s different for different people.
Also, if you do end up having sex (or messing around), one thing everyone regrets is getting an STD. Use protection. For oral sex on women, the appropriate tool is a dental dam. For hands, use latex or polyisoprene gloves (though manuel stimulation is a relatively safe form of sex to start with, it’s still better safe than sorry) Also don’t let her use toys on you unless they’re covered with a condom, again better safe than sorry.
Dental Dams can be hard to get your hands on, so here are some resources:
How To Make A Dental Dam (flavored condoms are definitely best for this purpose, though you can also use a drop of flavored lube on your side of the dam)
I hope your date goes well, and you have lots of good, safe fun.
As well here’s a bunch of flavored condoms/lubes at EF for tasty oral safety:
